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The Difference Between SM and Abuse

SM:
An SM scene is a controlled situation.
Abuse:
Abuse is an out-of-control situation.

SM:
Negotiation occurs before an SM scene to determine what will and will not happen in that scene.
Abuse:
One person determines what will happen.

SM:
Knowledgable consent is given to the scene by all parties.
Abuse:
No consent is asked for or given.

SM:
The "bottom" has a safeword that allows them to stop the scene at any time they need to for physical or emotional reasons.
Abuse:
The person being abused cannot stop what is happenning.

SM:
Everyone involved in the SM scene is concerned about needs, desires, and limits of others.
Abuse:
No concern is given to the needs, desires, and limits of the abused person.

SM:
The people in the SM scene are careful to be sure that they are not impaired by alcohol or drug use during the scene.
Abuse:
Alcohol or drugs are often used before an episode of abuse.

SM:
After an SM scene, the people involved feel good.
Abuse:
After an episode of abuse, the people involved feel bad.

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      (My thanks to Lolita - LSM National Outreach Officer - for giving me permission to repost this statement.)

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