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This is an informative site about BDSM. "BDSM" is an umbrella term encompassing Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & submission, and Sadomasochism (or Sex Magic.)
This site relates to safe, sane, and consensual BDSM and risk aware consensual kink. It does not encourage, promote, or condone -- pedophelia, abuse, or rape.
The web master / author / publisher is a citizen of the United States and the content reflects his experiences and perspective of North American BDSM.
Home Page with Site Map
Table of Contents
- Ten Tips for the Novice, Single, Heterosexual, Submissive Woman by Jay Wiseman (from the "Dating and Communication" section)
- Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off by Ambrosio (from the "Dating and Communication" section)
- Jay Wiseman's book review of The Gift of Fear (from the "General" section)
- Safer SM Pamphlet (ACT) (from the "Health and Safety" section)
- The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play by Jay Wiseman (from the "Health and Safety" section)
- Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol by Ambrosio (from the "Manners and Traditions" section)
- An Open Letter to a Novice Domme by Ambrosio (from the "General" section)
- Books for Beginners (from the "General" section)
- Perverted Vocabulary: a Glossary of Terms Used in BDSM by Ambrosio after others (from the "General" section)
- Some Notes on Netiquette and 'Net Basics by
Ambrosio (from the "Internet" section.) - Introductory Articles
- BDSM Fundamentals
- BDSM Tip Sheet for Beginners by Lady Green and Jay Wiseman
- Why Would Anyone Participate in S&M? by Keith L. Kendrick
- BDSM Background Information, a series of articles from the POWERotics Foundation
- Information for Professionals
- Information for Media
- EPE and law enforcement 1
- EPE and law enforcement 2
- Abuse
- Help! My spouse is into EPE
- Hormonal influences
- How to tell your children
- Books and Magazines
- Jay Wiseman's book review of The Gift of Fear
- Commandments: "Top's 10 Commandments" and "Bottom's 10 Commandments" from the Society of Janus (Author Unknown)
- History of Our Leather-S/M-Fetish Subculture and Communities: Towards a Bibliography compiled by slave david Stein
- About Munches
- What To Expect At a Munch by
Mistress Constance - A beginners' guide to munches by Stu
- What To Expect At a Munch by
- About Parties
- What To Expect At a Play Party by
Mistress Constance - my experience with play parties by Heidi
- What To Expect At a Play Party by
- What To Expect At a Bash by
Mistress Constance - Terms and Concepts
- Definitions by Mistress Constance
- Perverted Vocabulary: a Glossary of Terms Used in BDSM by Ambrosio
- Leather vs. BDSM by Philip the Foole
- Origin of RACK: RACK vs. SSC by Gary Switch
- Edgeplay by Sir Bamm!
- Mentorship by
Mistress Constance - A Rant on Mentorship by Ambrosio
- D/s Roles
- Nine Degrees of Submission by Diane Vera
- Submissive's Creed
- What a slave Needs
- You've Realized You're a Dominant Woman. What Now? by Rowan Ste. Julian
- An Open Letter to a Novice Domme by Ambrosio
- Switches: Are they misunderstood or do they miss the point of BDSM? by Ms. Siren
- S&M Tips and Techniques
- Introduction to Spanking
- The Basics of Flogging
- Grim's Flogging FAQ, Parts 1 & 2
- "Whips Presentation and Demonstration" by Sir Bamm!
- Anatomy for Flogging: The Back
- The Ten Commandments of Steel Bondage
- Caning Notes
- Finding and Making S&M Toys
- Online Shopping for BDSM Toys
- Creative Toy Sources!
- Clothespins!
- Relevant DVDs: Recommendations for DVDs with BDSM themes
- Ambrosio's Affliate Store
- Scene Music
- On Making Canes
- BDSM Groups and Munches
- Texas Resources
- Austin, TX
- Dallas and Ft. Worth, TX
- Houston, TX
- San Antonio Resources
- Other Texas Cities
- Health & Safety:
- Coronary Heart Disease: Angina & Heart Attack: Its Impact Upon the BDSM Lifestyle by Mistress Tammy, RN
- Diabetes Mellitus: Its Impact Upon the BDSM Lifestyle by Mistress Tammy, RN
- Facts and Myths About BDSM Safety by Hans Meijer
- Safer SM Pamphlet (ACT)
- D/s Medical Advice
- Emergency Training for SM Practicioners
- Jay Wiseman on Safety
- How to handle a seizure
- The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play by Jay Wiseman
- blossom's Suggestions for First Aid Kits
- Safer Sex by Sir Bamm!
- Ask the Therapist: Alternate Personas and Multiple Personalities by William A. Henkin, Ph.D.
- Abuse
- Statement on Abuse from the Leather Leadership Conference
- The Difference Between SM and Abuse from the Lesbian Sex Mafia
- Abuse in BDSM by SilverOz
- BDSM vs. Abuse by Sir Bamm!
- Signs Your Partner May Be Abusive
- Abuse from the POWERotics Foundation
- The Illusoria - Collaborators in Abuse and Murder by Rowan Ste. Julian
- Ask the Therapist: What Do I Do about a Dangerous Top? by William A. Henkin, Ph.D.
- Personal Bill of Rights
- Meeting Someone into BDSM: Advice and Personals
- Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off by Ambrosio
- Ten Tips for the Novice, Single, Heterosexual, Submissive Woman by Jay Wiseman
- Thoughts on Safety by Mistress Constance
- Ask the Therapist: How Do I End a Relationship? by William A. Henkin, Ph.D.
- Some Notes on Networking, Cruising, and Dating by Ambrosio
- A Surprising Discovery by Ambrosio
- Safecall Guide and Outline by Sir Bamm!
- Letter to a Friend by Wanderer
- Response to a Kinky Woman by Sir Edward of Dragon's Lake
- Three Essays on Finding a Domme by Ms Margo
- Negotiation and Negotiation Forms by Jay Wiseman
- Negotiations by Sir Bamm!
- BDSM Partner Checklist
- BDSM Partner Checklist in Word 6 format (reformatted by baebe)
- Some Criteria for Consensual D/s Contracts by Ambrosio
- Sample Consensual "Slavery" Contract
- Temporary Consensual "Slave Contract" by Diane Vera
- Temporary Consensual "Slave Contract" (Author Unknown)
- Contract for Discipline for switchable couples by Don (The Switching Network)
- Ms Siren and boy john's Collaring Ceremony: a lovely example of a Femdom/malesub collaring ceremony.
- What is Healthy and UnHealthy Communication?
- Manners and Traditions
- Etiquette for the Scene by
Rose - Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol by Ambrosio
- Part 1: General Principles
- Part 2: More Specific Guidelines
- Part 3: Cruising With Class
- Part 4: Play Parties
- Part 5: Flagging, Symbols, and Rituals
- Part 6: A Few Notes on High Protocol
- Part 7: In Closing
- The Entire Article on a Single Page
- Civility and Incivility in the Scene by
Chris M [Black Rose of Washington DC] - A Proposed "Pansexual Protocol" by Ambrosio
- Fetish Club Hanky Code
- To Share or Not to Share? by
Rowan Ste. Julian - The Old Guard: History, Origins and Traditions by
Guy Baldwin, M.S. - Old Guard? If You say so. by
Joseph W. Bean - The Myth of the Old Guard by
Jack Rinella - Old Guard, New Guard by
Gayle Rubin - An Essay About "the Old Days" by Jay Wiseman
- Multiple Tops by
Master L.J.E. - Marginalia on the Old Guard, Leather Traditions, and BDSM History by Ambrosio
- Rover's column in the December 1973 issue of California Scene Magazine: Earlierst documented use of the phrase "old guard" in a Leather context.
- Polyamory and BDSM
- What is Gor? by
Silk - Golfers of Gor (parody)
- House Plants of Gor (parody)
- Sado-masochistic Ritual in a Thelemic Context by
Raven Greywalker (Lilith) - Feminism, Wicca, and D/s by
Rowan Ste. Julian - Etiquette by
Emily Post : This is an online republication of the 1922 edition of Emily Post's 627-page first edition Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home (The 1922 edition is the most highly recommended book for High Procotol.) - George Washington's "Rules of Civility and Decent Behaviour In Company and Conversation"
- Cardinal Newman On Being a Gentleman
- Passage from Jane Austen's Northhanger Abbey
- U. S. Flag Protocol (Title 4)
- Law
- The Law, S/M and You by
A. Spencer Bergstedt , Attorney At Law. (legal advice from a real lawyer.) - Sexuality, Consent, and the Law in the U.S.
- Legal Standing of Non-Traditional Relationships by
Jay Wiseman - What to do if you're stopped by The Police: A Guide from the ACLU
- Two Videos: "Don't Talk to the Police"
- Don't Talk to the Police by Professor James Duane. 27 min video - May 21, 2008: James Duane explains why innocent people should never talk to the police.
- The Other Side of the Story by Officer George Bruch. 21 min - May 21, 2008: George Bruch from the Virginia Beach police department responds to Professor James Duane's presentation on why innocent people should never talk to the police.
- BUSTED: The Citizen's Guide to Surviving Police Encounters. 45 min - Nov 30, 2006: How to exercise your constitutional rights during encounters with police.
- The People vs. Oliver Jovanovic
- Text of Final Judgement on Spanner Case: Case of several men in Britain who were arrested for consensual sadomasochism.
- Government's Power to Require "Good Morals" and Adherence to Traditional Values by Paul Kovach and Michael Romanello
- Quotes on Freedom, Liberty, and Security
- The NLA-I Law Project
- Privacy Resources
- Coping with Identity Theft from the Privacy Rights Clearning House site at http://www.privacyrights.org/
- An Open Letter to Law Enforcement by Ambrosio: An open letter to law enforcement from someone in the BDSM community who wants to explain some ways in which BDSM is not domestic violence.
- Dawn Perlmutter's "Dark Subculture" Witch Hunt by Ambrosio
- The Internet & Webdesign
- Some Notes on Netiquette and 'Net Basics by
Ambrosio - Mostly BDSM Acronyms (After Big Al, Frites, and Harry Yeatts)
- Ambrosio's BDSM Newsletter
- Internet Relay Chat and Chat Rooms
- IRC Links: .chat and irc://: How to access IRC through the WWW
- Internet Relay Chat Commands
- This site's KY BDSM IRC page
- The Idiocy of Chat Conventions by Rowan Ste. Julian
- BDSM Mailing Lists
- BDSM Usenet Newsgroups
- SD's Tips for Getting Along on ASB
- Some reasons for ASB's mores
- Some types of posts unwelcome on ASB
- Ambrosio's Award for Applying for an Award for a BDSM Site
- BDSM Webrings
- Search
- Domain Name Query
- The 7 Deadly Myths of Internet Copyright
- Recommended Fonts
- Community Service
- How to Organize a Munch! by craftman
- How To Start Your Own S&M Support Group! by Nancy Ava Miller, M.Ed.
- How to Start a Successful BDSM Club by Lady MJ
- Laura Goodwin on Volunteering
- San Diego Munch History by Spyral Fox
- Sample Statement of Purpose for a BDSM Organization
- Advice on Hosting Balanced SM Parties by Jay Wiseman
- Advice on Hosting BDSM Parties
- Ten Tips for Novice Dungeon Monitors by Jay Wiseman
- Dungeon Masters by SubtleDeath
- NLA-Austin Dungeon Monitor Training Manual
- "Comprehensive Dungeon Monitors Guide" (2003) by Sir Bamm! and His! t
- my experience with play parties by Heidi
- Sample Party Rules
- Press Release Generator
- The S/M Library Project
- 10 Ways to Sexual Freedom
- DSM Revision Petition
- About Ambrosio
- His Personal Ad
- Profile: "Big Time Sensuality"
- Ambrosio's Classes and Workshops
- Original Homepage
- Awards
- This Site's Privacy Policy
- ULC Ordination Certificate
- Email Ambrosio
- Miscellaneous Pages
- Contributors: A list of people who have contributed to this web site.
- Humor
- BDSM Jokes including "You Might Be A Wannabe sub.... " and "You Might Be A Wannabe Dom.... "
- Ambrosio's Hot Little bitch
- A Visit from St. Nicholas to a Kinky Household
- House Plants of Gor (parody)
- Golfers of Gor (parody)
- Top 10 Most Commonly Found Doms
- Top 7 Subs
- Good Wife Guide
- The Care and Keep of the Male Slave from Kids in the Hall
- The Black Veil V.2: A Voluntary Code of Conduct for Vampyres/Vampires Written Father Sebastian of House Sahjaza; Amended by Lady Melanie; Revised by Michelle Belanger of House Kheperu.
- Art and Literature
- DVDs to Rent: Recommendations for DVDs with BDSM themes
- Hanns Heinz Ewers
- The Kama Sutra of Vatsayayana
- Poetry by the Masters
- Ambrosio's Unfamilar Stock Quotes
- Music Videos
- AmbrosioTX's YouTube Channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/AmbrosioTX
- Garbage - Special (music video with femdom overtones)
- Armand Van Helden - Hear My Name (music video with spanking)
- Thalia - Gracias A Dios (Spanish language music video with Femdom S&M, Bondage, and Corsets.)
- Christina Aguilera - Not Myself Tonight
- Rihanna - S&M
- Rihanna ft. Britney Spears - S & M (Remix) Live on Billboard Music Awards
- Relevant Videos
- Ohio River Valley Resources
- Miscellaneous External Links
Homepage and Site Map: (You are here.) Descriptions of the major sections and a complete list of the pages on this site.
Most Important Pages: Not a category of it's own but rather a listing of the most important pages from the categories which follow.
General BDSM Resources: Non-regional specific resources: Books, guides, groups outside Texas, and external Internet links. If you have a question about BDSM, please check theses pages before you write me.
BDSM Resources in Texas: Texas resources featuring Austin, Corpus Christi, Dallas, El Paso, Houston, and San Antonio. The "Other Texas Cities" page lists emerging Texas BDSM communities.
Health & Safety: Medical advice, First Aid instructions, and an important essay by Jay Wiseman on Breath Control.
Abuse: Domestic abuse should not be confused with consensual BDSM. The webmaster abhors domestic violence, abuse, and rape. This document includes several links, a list of mostly local resources, and a statement from the Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM).
If you are new to this lifestyle, please take the time to read these four articles -- Ten Tips for the Novice, Single, Heterosexual, Submissive Woman by Jay Wiseman, Three Essays on Finding a Domme by Ms Margo, Some Notes on Networking, Cruising, and Dating by Ambrosio, and Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off by Ambrosio -- before you start negotiating.
Once you meet someone you like and trust, you should negotiate your play session. This section includes a plain HTML negotiation form, an online interactive negotiation form, and an online interactive checklist as well as advice and resources for meeting others.
Manners and Traditions: Protocol and Etiquette for inside the scene and out, the Old Guard Traditions, and Modern Polyamory.
Law: BDSM and the Law. The webmaster is not a lawyer and this section is not offered as legal advice or an attempt to interprete the law. These links are a starting point -- not the final word on legal issues. For reliable legal advice, you must talk to a real lawyer.
The Internet & Webdesign: HTML help for Webdesigners and Vanilla and BDSM Internet Resources: History, instructions, netiquette, News groups, Mailing lists, IRC, chat rooms, "about this site," etc.,
Community Service Advice and information on starting and running a BDSM group, throwing parties, acting as a Dungeon Monitor, and being a community activist.
About Ambrosio
Ambrosio's Vanity Pages and Shameless Self-Promotion.
Miscellaneous Pages: Anything that doesn't fit into the other categories. That includes personal web sites, humor, and literature (such as the works of Hanns Heinz Ewers, and poetry.)
