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Summary

In summary -- play nice. BDSM is about playing games, and in the best games everyone has fun.

Further Reading and Sources

This article is only meant to be a starting point. For further study here are books and links:

Further Reading Etiquette in General

• Etiquette by Emily Post: This is an online republication of the 1922 edition of Emily Post's 627-page first edition Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home (The 1922 edition is the most highly recommended book for High Procotol.)
• U. S. Flag Protocol (Title 4)
• George Washington's "Rules of Civility and Decent Behaviour In Company and Conversation"
• Cardinal Newman On Being a Gentleman
• Passage from Jane Austen's Northhanger Abbey

Further Reading on Etiquette and Protocol in a BDSM and Leather Context

• The Manners and Traditions Section of "Ambrosio's BDSM Site" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/manners.cfm
• "Etiquette for the Scene" by Rose at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/etiquette.cfm
• "Civility and Incivility in the Scene" by Chris M [Black Rose of Washington DC] at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/chrism01.cfm
• "A Proposed 'Pansexual Protocol'" by Ambrosio at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/ppp.cfm
• "To Share or Not to Share?" by Rowan Ste. Julian at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/share.cfm
• "Commandments: Ten Rules for Dominants / Ten Rules for Submissives" (from the SOJ) at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/t10c.cfm
• A Leather Bar Hanky Code at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/hankcode.cfm
• For further reading, there is an etiquette guide for alternative sexuality and lifestyle situtations including but not limited to BDSM: Campbell, Drew, The Bride Wore Black Leather ... and he looked fabulous!   Greenery Press: Emeryville, 2000.

Links About the Old Guard

Acknowledgments (Additional Sources)

• Mistress Constance: A Lecture on Etiquette at the PEER TNG Tea Party. January 24, 2004
• Townsend, Larry. The Leatherman's Handbook: The Silver Jubilee Edition (Masquerade Books: New York, 1997) Introductions by Jack Fritscher, Ph.D., Victor Terry, and John Preston

Even More BDSM Etiquette, Scene Traditions, and Leather Protocol Links

• Please see http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/manners.cfm

Polite Behavior for Vampyres

• "The Black Veil V.2: A Voluntary Code of Conduct for Vampyres/Vampires" by Michelle Belanger at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/blackveil.cfm

Related Articles by Ambrosio

• "Meeting Someone Else into BDSM" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/advice.cfm
• "Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/safenote.cfm
• "An Open Letter to a Novice Domme" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/openlttr.cfm
• "Perverted Vocabulary: a Glossary of Terms Used in BDSM" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/terms.cfm
• "Some Notes on Netiquette and 'Net Basics" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/noteneti.cfm
• "Marginalia on the Old Guard, Leather Traditions, and BDSM History" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/notetrad.cfm
• "A Proposed 'Pansexual Protocol'" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/ppp.cfm

Recommended Books

• Campbell, Drew and Donna Barr The Bride Wore Black Leather ... And He Looked Fabulous!: An Etiquette Guide for the Rest of Us. (Greenery Press: Emeryville, 2000.)
  This book includes some information on Leather protocol but that is not its main focus. It covers a wide spectrum of alternative lifestyles including but not limited to Pagan, Wiccan, Gay, Lesbian, Transgendered, and Polyamorous. Buy it on Amazon.com
• Post, Emily. Etiquette: The Blue Book of Social Usage
  (The 1922 edition is the most highly recommended book for High Procotol. It's available on-line at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/epost.cfm)
• Schwartz, Oretha D., Service Etiquette 4th edition.
  The definitive book on U.S. military protocol and etiquette. Buy it on Amazon.com
• Townsend, Larry The Leatherman's Handbook: Silver Jubilee Edition. (Larry Townsend Publishing: 2000)
  Both a historical document about the Gay Leather scene in the 1970s and also a useful guide to the leather lifestyle. Buy it on Amazon.com

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• "Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/safenote.cfm
  
  
• "Meeting Someone Else into BDSM" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/advice.cfm
  
  
• "An Open Letter to a Novice Domme" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/openlttr.cfm
  
  
• "Perverted Vocabulary: a Glossary of Terms Used in BDSM" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/terms.cfm
  
  
• "Some Notes on Netiquette and 'Net Basics" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/noteneti.cfm
  
  
• "Marginalia on the Old Guard, Leather Traditions, and BDSM History" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/notetrad.cfm
  
  
• "A Proposed 'Pansexual Protocol'" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/ppp.cfm
  
  
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• "A Proposed 'Pansexual Protocol'" at http://www.EvilMonk.org/A/ppp.cfm
  
  
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