Ambrosio's BDSM Site >> Manners & Traditions >> "Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol"

These are guidelines for polite behavior in the BDSM scene. It's based on observations, personal experiences, conversations with peers, mailing list & newsgroup postings,
workshops, web pages, magazine articles, books, and personal mistakes. While some items of higher protocol are covered, these notes are mainly to address the most common social situations.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene
Etiquette and Leather Protocol

Version 2.09
By Ambrosio

Version 1.00 first posted May 31, 1999
Version 2.00 first posted May 31, 2005

(formerly entitled "Basic Protocol and Etiquette"
and "Some Notes on Basic Protocol and Etiquette")

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