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(Mostly) BDSM Acronyms

Based on the work of Frites, Arlene Rinaldi, Big Al, and others

These acronyms were compiled from I thank the authors.
BDSM Acronyms and Definitions in a table
Acronym Definition
!= Not equal to (Frites)
<g> grin (or <G> big grin, vars. incl <VEG> Very Evil Grin) (Frites)
:-) A "smiley" face (sideways); there are lots of variations (Frites)
AAMOF As a Matter of Fact (Frites)
ABP* alt.binaries.pictures.* (Frites)
ABPE* Alt.Binaries.Pictures.Erotica.* (.bondage, .leather, etc.) (Frites)
ADD Attention Defecit Disorder (Frites)
AFAIK/AFIK As Far as I Know (Frites)
AKA Also Known As (Frites)
APB alt.personals.bondage (Frites)
ASAP As Soon As Possible (Frites)
ASB usually: alt.sex.bondage, sometimes: alt.sex.bestiality (Frites)
ASB 1) Shorthand for alt.sex.bondage. 2) a keyphrase that indicates you're writing an actual bondage article, instead of just some spam. (Big Al)
ASF* alt.sex.fetish.* (Frites)
ASFD alt.sex.femdom/ alt.sex.fetish.diapers (Frites)
ASS alt.sex.spanking/stories/services (context!) (Frites)
AUP Acceptable Use Policy (Frites)
B&D Bondage and Discipline (Frites)
BBS Bulletin Board System (Frites)
BDSM A catchall phrase made up of B&D (Bondage and Discipline) D&S (Dominance and Submission) and S&M (Sadism and Masochism). It describes alternate sexuality in general, except bestiality and orientation variations. Oftentimes there is some blurring of the lines among the three types, fetish play, etc., so BDSM makes a useful term. (Big Al)
BDSMLMNOP BDSM and whatever else we might do (Frites)
BFN bye for now (Harry Yeatts)
BTDT Been There, Done That (Frites)
BTSOOM beats the [stuffing] out of me (Harry Yeatts)
BTW By The Way
CB or C+B Cock & Ball (Frites)
CBT Cock & Ball Torture (Frites)
CD Cross Dresser (Frites)
CHUDWAH (From CHDW) a Clueless Het-Dom Wannabe. Chudwahs don't get a whole lot of respect. They often send wannafucks *. (As I recall, The Horseman also came up with this term.) (Big Al)
CHUSWAH Clueless Heterosexual Sub WAnnabe (Frites)
CIS "Complete Irrevocable Submission."
CNC Consensual Non-Consent (Frites)
CP Corporal Punishment (Frites)
CTS Carpal Tunnel Syndrome (Frites)
CUA commonly used acronym(s) OR common user access (Harry Yeatts)
D&S or D/s Domination & Submission (Frites)
DKF Dreaded Koosh Flogger (Frites)
DOYC # Deity Of Your Choice (Frites)
F2F Face to Face (Frites)
FAQ Frequently Asked Question(s)
FTR For The Record (Frites)
FU [fouled] up (Harry Yeatts)
FUBAR [fouled] up beyond all recognition (Harry Yeatts)
FUD (spreading) fear, uncertainty, and disinformation (Harry Yeatts)
FWIW For What It's Worth
FYI For Your Information
GR&D grinning, running, & ducking (Harry Yeatts)
GS Golden Shower (Frites)
HAND Have A Nice Day (Frites)
HNG Horny Net Geek. Often sends wannafucks *. (Big Al)
HTH Hope This Helps
HWSNBN He Who Should Not Be Named (Frites)
IAE in any event (Harry Yeatts)
IANAL I am not a lawyer (also IANAxxx, such as IANACPA) (Harry Yeatts)
IAP Internet Access Provider (normally ISP) (Frites)
IIRC If I Recall Correctly (Frites)
IM Instant Message (AOL version of /msg) (Frites)
IMAO In My Arrogant Opinion (Frites)
IMCO in my considered opinion (Harry Yeatts)
IME In My Experience (Frites)
IMHO In My Humble Opinion
IMHOWRT In My Humble (Or Honest) Opinion With Respect To
IMNSHO In My Not So Humble Opinion
IMO In My Opinion
IMX In My eXperience (perferred form: IME) (Frites)
IOW In Other Words (Harry Yeatts)
IRC Internet Relay Chat (Frites)
IRT In Reply To, In Regards To (Frites)
ISO In Search Of (Frites)
ISP Internet Service Provider (Frites)
ITMT In The Mean Time (Frites)
LLD Leather Lifestyle Dork(s) (Frites)
LOL Laughing Out Loud or Lots Of Luck
LTR Long Term Relationship (Frites)
MHOTY my hat's off to you (Harry Yeatts)
MOTAS/OS/SS Member of the Appropriate Sex/ Opposite Sex/ Same sex (Frites)
MPD Multiple Personality Disorder (Frites)
mung Mash Until No Good (Frites)
NC Non-Consensual (Frites)
NFW no [bleeping] way (Harry Yeatts)
NG News Group (Frites)
NL New Leather (Frites)
NLA National Leather Association (Frites)
NP No Problem (Frites)
NRN no reply necessary (Harry Yeatts)
Ob(BDSM, DS, etc.) It once was traditional throughout most of usenet that when you posted something off topic to a certain group you added an Ob(whatever the topic is) to the end of the post so your readers didn't think it was a complete waste of time. This isn't absolutely Obligatory anymore (incidentally, that's where the term comes from), but you still see it, and are encouraged to use it should you choose. (Big Al)
ObBDSM Obligatory BDSM (used to add topic to an off-topic post) (Frites)
OGL Old Guard Leather (Frites)
OIC oh, I see! (Harry Yeatts)
OOTB out of the box (brand new) (Harry Yeatts)
OT Off Topic (Frites)
OTOH On The Other Hand
OTTH on the third hand (Harry Yeatts)
OTW One True Way (Frites)
P&M Posted & Mailed (Frites)
PDA Public Displays of Affection (Frites)
PISS Passive Ignorance Silence Strike (Frites)
PITA Pain In the ...
PMFJI pardon me for jumping in (Harry Yeatts)
PTSS Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (Frites)
RL Real Life (as opposed to net.life) (Frites)
ROFL Rolling On the Floor Laughing (Frites)
ROTFL roll(ing) on the floor laughing (also, ROF,L, ROFL) (Harry Yeatts)
RSN real soon now (which may be a long time coming) (Harry Yeatts)
RT Real-Time/Rise Time/Radiation Therapy/RighT (direction) (Frites)
RTFM Read the F'ing Manual (Frites)
RTFM read the [fine] manual (or message) (Harry Yeatts)
SAM Smart-Ass Masochist / Stand And Model (Frites)
SITD still in the dark (Harry Yeatts)
SM or S&M Sadism & Masochism; sadomasochism; Sexual Magick (Frites)
SNAFU situation normal, all [fouled] up (Harry Yeatts)
SO Significant Other (Frites)
SQO Some Quantity Of (Frites)
SSB/SSBB Soc.Subculture.Bondage-BDSM (I prefer just SSB, myself) (Frites)
SSC Safe, Sane, Consensual (Frites)
SSS Soc.Sexuality.Spanking (Frites)
STD/STI Sexually Transmitted Disease / .. Infection (Frites)
TANSTAAFL there ain't no such thing as a free lunch (Harry Yeatts)
TES The Eulenspiegel Society (Frites)
TFTB Topping From The Bottom (Frites)
TG @ TransGendered (Frites)
TIA Thanks In Advance
TIC tongue in cheek (Harry Yeatts)
TLA Three Letter Acronym
TOS Terms of Service (Frites)
TPE For Total (or True) Power Exchange. A form of D&S (or, depending on who you ask, the only form of D&S) where the submissive gives up all power to the dominant. Also a BBS in Washington, DC (only that's The Power Exchange). (Big Al)
TPTB The Powers That Be (Frites)
TS @ TransSexual (Frites)
TTFN ta ta for now (Harry Yeatts)
TTYL talk to you later (Harry Yeatts)
TV also stands for TransVestite (Frites)
TYVM thank you very much (Harry Yeatts)
V/A Verbal Abuse (Frites)
VBG Very Big Grin (Frites)
Wannafuck An unsolicited sexually graphic piece of email. Posters who self-identify as female often get these. Posters who self-identify as male get them too, but less often. This is sometimes depressing for the males. (Big Al)
W4W (WP4W, etc.; all the various products, such as...) (Harry Yeatts)
Wiitwd What It Is That We Do. Credit goes to Bill Borher (who by now will have changed his name several times) I believe for this one. (Big Al)
Wiitwd(h) What it is that we do (here) (Frites)
WRT With Respect To (Frites)
WYSIWYG what you see is what you get (Harry Yeatts)
YKINMK Your Kink Is Not My Kink (Frites)
YKINOK Your Kink Is Not Okay (Frites)
YKIOK,IJNMK Your Kink is OK, It's Just Not My Kink (Frites)
YMMV Your Mileage may vary. Or, Yaks Make More Volkswagons, depending on your mood. (Big Al)

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