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Contract for Discipline for switchable couples
The Switching Network
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SwitchNet/
NOTE: Slavery contracts are not legally binding.
This contract provides a framework for consentual SMBD play. By defining the boundaries of what is and is not to be included in the couples sex play, overall satisfaction of both partners will be increased. Additional provisions under this contract may be added in the Contract Addendum. Two additional forms are used in conjunction with this contract: The Rules, and The List as described below.
General Agreement
Each partner will complete the rules form. In it they will describe all their partner's annoying or bothersome behaviors referred to as offenses - (For example leaving hair in the sink). Each of these offenses has a prescribed amount of punishment to be administered to the offender by the offendee during a periodic (weekly) play session. The partners must agree to hold one or two sessions in each play cycle. In a single session only one partner assumes the dominant role and dispenses punishment as prescribed by the itemized list. A double session is split with roles reversed at an agreed upon time or point in the play.
Other considerations:
The session must be held at least once a week or every ______________.
A refusal to submit at the appointed time will result in an additional six (how traditional) strokes for the refusor. If a dispute arises over an offense, it will be negotiated between the couple or an arbitrator may be appointed in the Addendum.
The Rules
The attachment 'The Rules' is a list of offenses and the agreed upon punishment for each offense. Each offense will have a minimum and maximum number of strokes and a force level associated with it. The implement used and the actual number of strokes delivered in the punishment is at the discretion of the spanker. Both partners will write and maintain their own Rules list that clearly specifies what is expected of the other partner. An items on the list must be accepted by the other partner before it becomes active. Acceptance is indicated by initialing and dating the item.
The List
(The Offenses & Punishment List)
As each infraction of the Rules occurs, an entry is made on this form by the owner of the rule. The form may be used in formal review 'in the office' to set up the session or during the session as each item is meted out.
The undersigned agree to abide by all the above specified terms for a period of ___________.
_________________________ Date:________________
_________________________ Date:________________
THE ADDENDUM
(to be added later)
(A)
(B)
(C)
THE RULES
Owner:_______________________
Further Reading on Relationships (Dating and Communication)
More on Finding Partners
- Some Notes on Networking, Cruising, and Dating by Ambrosio
- Ten Tips for the Novice, Single, Heterosexual, Submissive Woman by Jay Wiseman
- Three Essays on Finding a Domme by Ms Margo
- Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off by Ambrosio
- A Surprising Discovery by Ambrosio
- Letter to a Friend by Wanderer
- Help! My spouse is into EPE -- part of BDSM Background Information, a series of articles from the POWERotics Foundation
- Response to a Kinky Woman by Sir Edward of Dragon's Lake
- Three Essays on Finding a Domme by Ms Margo
More on Meeting Safety
- Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off by Ambrosio
- Thoughts on Safety by Mistress Constance
- Safecall Guide and Outline by Sir Bamm!
- Ask the Therapist: What Do I Do about a Dangerous Top? by William A. Henkin, Ph.D.
More on Negotiation
- Negotiation and Negotiation Forms by Jay Wiseman
- Negotiations by Sir Bamm!
- Eight Techniques for Maintaining Communication and Trust During a Scene by Chris M
- What is Healthy and UnHealthy Communication? Author Unknown
- Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List
- BDSM Partner Checklist in Word 6 format (reformatted by baebe)
- BDSM Submissive Play Partner Checklist in Online Email format
More on Contracts
- Some Criteria for Consensual Master-Slave Contacts by Ambrosio
- Sample Consensual "Slavery" Contract (Author Unknown)
- Temporary Consensual "Slave Contract" by Diane Vera
- Temporary Consensual "Slave Contract" Author Unknown (This appears to be an unknown author's revision of an article by the same name written back in the early 1980's by Diane Vera.)
Miscellaneous
- Ms Siren and boy john's Collaring Ceremony
- Ask the Therapist: How Do I End a Relationship?
- Polyamory and BDSM in the History and Protocol section: the choice to practice responsible non-monogamy
- Relationship Section: More articles about --- and additional links for --- Dating and Communication