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Temporary Consensual "Slave Contract"
copyright 1984, 1987 by Diane Vera. All rights reserved.
Posted with permission of the author.
Diane Vera wrote this article in the early 1980's. It was published in the The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual
There is a similar article circulating under the same name. This other "Temporary Consensual 'Slave Contract'" appears to be an unknown author's revision of Diane Vera's article.
Of my own free will, as of _______(date), I ___________(name), hereby grant you,____________(name), full ownership and use of my body and mind from now until __________(date).
I will obey you at all times and will wholeheartedly seek your pleasure and well-being above all other considerations.
I renounce all rights to my own pleasure, comfort, or gratification, except insofar as you desire or permit them.
I will strive diligently to re-mold my body, my habits, and my attitudes in accordance with your desires.
I will seek always to learn how to please you better, and will gracefully accept criticism.
I renounce all rights to privacy or concealment from you. I will answer truthfully and completely, to the best of my knowledge, any and all questions you may ask me.
I understand and agree that any failure by me to comply fully with your desires shall be regarded as sufficient cause for possibly severe punishment.
Within the limits of physical safety and my ability to earn a livelihood, I otherwise unconditionally accept as your perogative anything you may choose to do with me, whether as punishment, for your amusement, or for whatever purpose, no matter how painful or humiliating to myself.
__________________________(name)
______________________(date)
_____________________(place)
* * * * *
When I decide to accept someone as my slave, he or she copies and signs the above "contract." The exact wording is open to negotiation --the slave is, after all, writing a statement, "Of my own free will ..."
Usually, slave, the first "contract" would be for maybe three months. After the first three months, we might then have a "contract" for a longer period of time, perhaps six months to a year. Of course, any prospective slave in his/her right mind will want to get to know me before signing even the three month "contract".
"Slave contracts" aren't legally enforcable.
However, anyone who signs one without intent to keep it will get a very bad reputation very fast within the tiny but growing female-dominant lifestyle subculture. I don't believe it is a good idea to sign a "slave contract" for more than a year at a time, and I definitely don't believe in lifelong "slave contracts".
People do change. Among the people I've known, the longest-lasting female-dominant S/M relationships typically go through an intense, total (or nearly total) Mistress/slave phase for maybe a couple of years, after which they settle back into less rigorously defined relationship in which the dominant woman is still the leader, and the submissive is still eager to do her bidding.
I doubt that anyone can totally surrender his/her autonomy forever, though doing so temporarily can be an exciting and emotionally rewarding experience for some people. And for however long they do remain totally subservient, such people are NOT to be despised as weak, subhuman, or worthless.
On the contrary,a good slave is very valuable to have around. And such a total gift of self requires a kind of strength and courage.
Revised August
1987
The preceeding article and two others by Diane Vera -- "Kinds of Masochism and/or Submission" and Nine Degrees of Submission -- appear in The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual, edited by Pat Califia, (Boston: Lace/Alyson Press, 1988) (ISBN 1-55583-301-2)
Sadly, the book is currently of print, but used copies are available through Amazon.com.
Also by Diane Vera
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- Some Notes on Networking, Cruising, and Dating by Ambrosio
- Ten Tips for the Novice, Single, Heterosexual, Submissive Woman by Jay Wiseman
- Three Essays on Finding a Domme by Ms Margo
- Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off by Ambrosio
- A Surprising Discovery by Ambrosio
- Letter to a Friend by Wanderer
- Help! My spouse is into EPE -- part of BDSM Background Information, a series of articles from the POWERotics Foundation
- Response to a Kinky Woman by Sir Edward of Dragon's Lake
- Three Essays on Finding a Domme by Ms Margo
More on Meeting Safety
- Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off by Ambrosio
- Thoughts on Safety by Mistress Constance
- Safecall Guide and Outline by Sir Bamm!
- Ask the Therapist: What Do I Do about a Dangerous Top? by William A. Henkin, Ph.D.
More on Negotiation
- Negotiation and Negotiation Forms by Jay Wiseman
- Negotiations by Sir Bamm!
- Eight Techniques for Maintaining Communication and Trust During a Scene by Chris M
- What is Healthy and UnHealthy Communication? Author Unknown
- Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List
- BDSM Partner Checklist in Word 6 format (reformatted by baebe)
- BDSM Submissive Play Partner Checklist in Online Email format
More on Contracts
- Some Criteria for Consensual Master-Slave Contacts by Ambrosio
- Sample Consensual "Slavery" Contract (Author Unknown)
- Temporary Consensual "Slave Contract" Author Unknown (This appears to be an unknown author's revision of an article by the same name written back in the early 1980's by Diane Vera.)
- Contract for Discipline for switchable couples by Don (The Switching Network)
Miscellaneous
- Ms Siren and boy john's Collaring Ceremony
- Ask the Therapist: How Do I End a Relationship?
- Polyamory and BDSM in the History and Protocol section: the choice to practice responsible non-monogamy
- Relationship Section: More articles about --- and additional links for --- Dating and Communication