BDSM Fundamentals
C O N T E N T S
Featured Link: The "SSBB (Soc.Subculture.Bondage-Bdsm) Frequently Asked Questions list" -- at http://www.unrealities.com/adult/ssbb/faq.html -- is essential reading for people new to BDSM.
See also this site's Miscellaneous section for "Interesting Individuals with Web Sites," "Humor," "Goth Links," "Literature" (including "Poetry By the Masters"), and "Miscellaneous External Links."
For even more links, see the Miscellaneous External Links page.
Introductory Articles
- BDSM Tip Sheet for Beginners by Lady Green and Jay Wiseman
- Why Would Anyone Participate in Sadomasochism? by Keith L. Kendrick
- "The Pleasure of Pain" by Marianne Apostolides from Psychology Today (Sep/Oct 99): "Find out why one in 10 of us is into S&M." http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-19990901-000039.html
- BDSM Background Information, a series of articles from the POWERotics Foundation
- Information for Professionals
- Information for Media
- EPE and law enforcement 1
- EPE and law enforcement 2
- Abuse
- Help! My spouse is into EPE
- Hormonal influences
- How to tell your children
- Books and Magazines
- Jay Wiseman's book review of The Gift of Fear
- Commandments: "Top's 10 Commandments" and "Bottom's 10 Commandments" from the Society of Janus (Author Unknown)
- What To Expect At a Munch by
Mistress Constance - What To Expect At a Play Party by
Mistress Constance - What To Expect At a Bash by
Mistress Constance - A beginners' guide to munches by Stu. This article was written specifically for the British BDSM community. But while some of the particular information doesn't apply outside the UK, a lot of it is relevant to the scene in other countries -- the U.S. being one.
- my experience with play parties by Heidi, the impudent guttersnipe
- History of Our Leather-S/M-Fetish Subculture and Communities: Towards a Bibliography compiled by slave david stein
Terms and Concepts
- Definitions by Mistress Constance
- Perverted Vocabulary: a Glossary of Terms Used in BDSM by Ambrosio
- Leather vs. BDSM by Philip the Foole
- Origin of RACK: RACK vs. SSC by Gary Switch
- Edgeplay by Sir Bamm!
- Mentorship by
Mistress Constance - A Rant on Mentorship by Ambrosio
D/s Roles
D/s stands for Dominance and submission. It's separate from play and bondage. While the latter two can complement a D/s relationship, they can just as easily be absent.
- Nine Degrees of Submission by Diane Vera
- Submissive's Creed Author Unknown
- What a slave needs by david stein
- You've Realized You're a Dominant Woman. What Now? by Rowan Ste. Julian
- An Open Letter to a Novice Domme by Ambrosio
- 14 Attributes of a Good Master by Lord Byron of Nashville, TN
- Switches: Are they misunderstood or do they miss the point of BDSM? by Ms. Siren
S&M Tips and Techniques
- Introduction to Spanking (From an anonymous USENET posting)
- The Basics of Flogging by Keith L. Kendrick
- Grim's Flogging FAQ, Parts 1 & 2
- "Whips Presentation and Demonstration" by Sir Bamm!
- Anatomy for Flogging: The Back by Ambrosio
- Scene Music
- The Ten Commandments of Steel Bondage by Harold Cox adapted by David Stein
- Caning Notes
Finding and Making S&M Toys
- Online Shopping for BDSM Toys: A unique selection of inexpensive sources for quality toys including some less expensive toy sources most people don't think about.
- Creative Toy Sources!
- Clothespins!
- On Making Canes
- Relevant DVDs: Recommendations for DVDs with BDSM themes
- Scene Music
- Ambrosio's Affliate Store
Find Groups and Events
- To Find Groups in the Lone Star State visit my Texas section.
- To find groups, munches, mailing lists, and a few of the businesses in Southern Indiana, Southern Ohio, Northern Kentucky, and West Virginia, visit this site's Ohio River Valley Resources page.
- To find groups in Arizona visit this site's Arizona BDSM and Leather page.
- For English language munches and groups outside of Texas, Arizona, and the Ohio River Valley area, start with my BDSM Groups and Munches page.
External Links
- The SSBB (Soc.Subculture.Bondage-Bdsm) Frequently Asked Questions list.
- www.TheBDSMEventsPage.com
- Bondage Geisha
- Crave
- Kink Culture
- Powerotics Blog
- Society for Human Sexuality
- Jay Wiseman's JayWiseman.com is a great site especially for submissive women first getting involved in the scene.
- See also this site's Miscellaneous section for "Interesting Individuals with Web Sites," "Humor," "Goth Links," "Literature" (including "Poetry By the Masters"), and "Miscellaneous External Links."
For even more links, see the Miscellaneous External Links page.